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– ## VIDEO-WatchamarriegetodieforPart1.docx

– ## CaseStudyGradingRubric.pdf

– ## CaseStudyAnalysisPaulandDiane.docx

– ## Clinicalhandbookofcoupletherapy6thed.Chap.11.pdf

– ## Clinicalhandbookofcoupletherapy6thed.Chap.10.pdf

– ## TranscriptVideo-Watch-a-marriage-two-die-for-part-1.txt

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– delacruzabraham_2058805_126744106_Final-MarriageTherapistInterviewAssignment.docx
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**## VIDEO-WatchamarriegetodieforPart1.docx**

**VIDEO**

marriage

https://canvas.liberty.edu/courses/1011409/pages/watch-a-marriage-two-die-for-part-1-2?module_item_id=107528271

**## CaseStudyGradingRubric.pdf**

Criteria Ratings Points

Content 105 to >97 pts

Advanced

All components as
described in the
assignment have
been thoroughly
addressed. Student
followed the Case
Study Analysis
Template and used
headings A through
E. Student
demonstrated
advanced critical
thinking,
problem-solving,
and an organized,
theory-based
counseling
approach. Student
demonstrated
advanced prowess
in elaborating on
the Chosen
Theoretical
Orientation
(suggested scope
is 2 pages).
Student
incorporated and
synthesized course
materials.

97 to >88 pts

Proficient

Most components
as described in the
assignment have
been thoroughly
addressed.
Student followed
the Case Study
Analysis Template
and used headings
A through E.
Student proficiently
demonstrated
critical thinking,
problem-solving,
and an organized,
theory-based
counseling
approach. Student
was proficient at
elaborating on the
Chosen
Theoretical
Orientation
(suggested scope
is 2 pages).
Student adequately
incorporated and
synthesized course
materials.

88 to >80 pts

Developing

Few components
as described in the
assignment have
been thoroughly
addressed.
Student followed
most of the Case
Study Analysis
Template and used
headings A
through E. Student
exemplified
developing
demonstration of
critical thinking,
problem-solving,
and an organized,
theory-based
counseling
approach. Student
elaborated on the
Chosen
Theoretical
Orientation
(suggested scope
is 2 pages).
Student
incorporated and
synthesized
course materials.

80 to >0 pts

Below Expectations

Few components as
described in the
assignment have
been thoroughly
addressed. Student
inadequately followed
the Case Study
Analysis Template
and used headings A
through E.
Organization was
lacking. Student
inadequately
demonstrated critical
thinking,
problem-solving, and
an organized,
theory-based
counseling approach.
Student did not meet
expectations in
elaborating on the
Chosen Theoretical
Orientation
(suggested scope is 2
pages). Student failed
to adequately
incorporate and
synthesize course
materials.

0 pts

Not
present

/ 105
pts

Mechanics 45 to >40 pts

Advanced

Student
demonstrated
exemplary
grammar, diction
and APA
formatting.

40 to >38 pts

Proficient

Student
demonstrated
proficient grammar,
diction and APA
formatting.

38 to >33 pts

Developing

Student
demonstrated
average quality
grammar, diction
and APA
formatting.

33 to >0 pts

Below Expectations

Student demonstrated
poor grammar, diction
and APA formatting.

0 pts

No
Marks

/ 45
pts

Total Points: –

Case Study Grading Rubric | EDCO811_D01_202630

**## CaseStudyAnalysisPaulandDiane.docx**

EDCO 811

**Case Study Analysis: Paul and Diane**

Paul and Diane have been married for five years. It is the first marriage for both spouses. Currently, Paul is a successful CPA with a prestigious accounting firm in Manassas. He has been with the company for nearly 10 years and is next in line for a senior management position that will be opening soon due to a retiring colleague. Diane teaches English at a local high school. She has been teaching for the past eight years since completing her master’s degree.

They closed on their first home two years ago, taking a 30-year mortgage. However, Paul would like to pay off the mortgage in the next 15 years due to the uncertain real estate market and sluggish economy. Both of them really enjoy being on and around the water and recently purchased a small boat to use whenever they could. After meeting at a Christmas party, their relationship seemed like a whirlwind romance. They immediately started dating and married six months later and both of them were content with their careers and life in general. They started attending a new church about three years ago and looked for ways to be more involved. Diane volunteers with children’s ministries and Paul has started helping out with youth related activities and meetings.

As the school year is coming to an end, Diane has begun to think more about having children and starting a family. She turns 33 this year and did not want to wait too much longer. Her family is “dropping hints” about grandkids and she knows her biological clock is ticking. When she mentioned her thoughts and that she was considering not teaching during the next school year, according to her, Paul “went ballistic.” He said that they had already committed to paying off the mortgage and the new boat. When Diane suggested that they sell the boat and could manage with a lower budget, Paul just became more frustrated and angrier. Last week, he made the comment that he was not even sure if he still wanted to have any children. Besides, he reasoned, their involvement with children and the youth group gave them both plenty of meaningful time with children.

Diane believes that Paul has become too accustomed to their two-income lifestyle and that his parent’s messy divorce when he was nine still “scares” him about raising their own family. The negative reaction from Paul has devastated Diane and has led to several very heated arguments, which have now spilled over to other parts of the relationship. Every time Paul wants to discuss the matter, he says that she just, “cries and gets emotional and angry,” while Diane claims that Paul, “leaves the house to be with his buddies or sulks in front of the television all night.” Their love life has been almost non-existent for several months now. Last week, Diane confessed her questioning the fact that they got married too soon and did not really know each other well enough. Church leadership has asked them both to take a time-out and work on the marriage. Although somewhat reluctant and defensive, they have both agreed to talk with a counselor.

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**## TranscriptVideo-Watch-a-marriage-two-die-for-part-1.txt**

We welcome, and
I'm excited to be unpacking some
information with you and some thoughts
with you about what goes into
creating vibrant, healthy, whole
balanced marriages. I want to start
by asking you, have you ever seen
a great athlete? I love the Olympics. Have you ever seen
great performers, great musicians,
great speakers, singers, artists, leaders? We see people like that. And again, I'll go
back to the Olympics. We see people
who are great. And we look at the
performance and we're amazed by their
performance. And that's what we see, that's what's
in front of us. But what is it that
you and I often don't see after we watch the
great performance? And many of you
right now would probably answer that
question, Well, we don't see
everything that went into producing
the performance. Correct. After
working with couples for literally
three decades now, you begin to see what some couples put into their marriage that make for healthy marriages and what other couples do that maybe aren't
very good, aren't very healthy or balanced for
their marriages. We're going to take three
parts and I want to unpack for you
seven factors that I feel are helpful in creating world class gold medal wonderful
marriages. It's probably not the
only seven things, or exclusively
the best seven. But these are
the things that have resonated with me over my career of working with
literally hundreds, if not maybe several
thousand couples. So let me just
kind of lock into this and give you the seven factors
in this part. One, we'll cover the
first two factors. The first factor I would refer to or I
would call capacity, Some might call
it inaateability, talent, skill set. But the great
ones seem to have this capacity for
greatness to do something. Well, I know that some couples that
you and I might see, or the spouses
that we might see, they might look at
themselves and say, I don't think I have the capacity
for greatness. I'm not sure that I
have the capacity to have a great
marriage or to be a great husband
or a great wife. Gee, you should
see the family I came up from, we were pretty messed up. So I want to
challenge that because I believe from
a Christian context, from a faith
based context, we all have the
capacity for greatness. It is Christ in us. Loss 127 says, the hope
of glory. Thank God. It's not me or you
or our clients, but it's who's
in us that makes a difference in John 39. John says that we are born of his seed,
meaning God's seed. That word, seed in
the Greek is sperma. P E R MA guess which word we get in
English for that. Now, I want you to think about that
for a minute. John is saying that we are born of sperma, his seed. Think about it
this way, when someone is in Christ, when they are a
Christ follower, if they have a
relationship with God, literally, I think I
can from this scripture say we have the
DNA of Heaven. Have you ever stopped
to think about that? You and I have
the same DNA that spoke the
world into being, that raised Lazarus
from the dead. That open blind
eyes and healed the leper and
unstopped ears. You and I have
that same DNA, Just like if you have
a son or a daughter, then your son or daughter has your genetic DNA. You and I have our
parents genetic DNA. If we are born again, if we are born
into Christ, we genetically, in
a spiritual sense, the DNA of Heaven. The encouraging part
of this is that means anyone has a capacity
for a great marriage. And so I don't let
couples or husbands or wives necessarily get away with
saying, well, you know, a great
marriage might be reserved for them or
them, but not me. I'm stuck to the
grade B movie here. I don't
believe that. And I think it's important
we communicate to our couples that H one, each spouse and
each couple that represents the
marriage have the capacity
for greatness. And I say this, listen, if great is available, I encourage husbands and wives, don't
settle for good. Don't be a good husband
or a good wife. If you can be a great husband or a great wife, don't be a good
dad or a good mom. If you can be a great
dad or a great mom, it's important
not to settle for mediocrity or good when great is available. For those who say to me, Eric, if you could just understand
my life story, you'd see why I struggle
with the thought that I can have a great marriage or
where I've come from. I often use the metaphor of rewriting the
script, so to speak. I couldn't do what I do, and I'm not sure you could effectively
work with a client or a
couple if you didn't believe that God could make a difference, if you didn't believe
that we're not stuck with the hand that we are dealt with in life. Let's say for a
moment that you are the Christian version of Steven Spielberg. You're just this
amazing movie producer, director, and you're
reading a book. And as you're
reading the book, you are saying to
yourself, boy, I'd love to make a
movie out of that book. What's the first thing
that you would have to do if you wanted to make a movie out of the
book you were reading? Well, you would have
to go to the author, secure the rights
to make the movie. Why? Because it's
not your story, it's not your book. When Peter Jackson and New Line Cinema wanted to make the Lord of
the Rings movies, they had to go to the Tolkien Society,
have conversation, negotiate the
rights, pay for the rights to make
those movies. I'm sure they paid
a pretty penny, but I think in
the end they did. All right. But once you own the rights
to the story, then you're free within some latitude to change the story
a little bit. I can bring a character into the movie
that wasn't in the book or take a character out of the movie that was
in the book, or change the
order of things or the lines a little
bit. That's why what? Movies never quite
like the book. When we come to Christ, when he brings
salvation in essence, what does it mean
to be redeemed? What does the word
redeem literally mean? It means to buy
back to purchase. When a person
comes to Christ, it's in essence that God negotiated the rights
to that person's story. That's why in Hebrews 12, the writer of
Hebrews can say, now God is the author and the finisher
of our stories, and he writes pretty
good stories. I've literally
talked with couples sometimes as I'm hearing them unpack their story, I've literally looked
at him and said, what script are you
reading off of right now? Is it the one that was
thrust into your hands when you were a little
kid and someone said, this is your role,
this is your identity, these are your
lines, memorize it, do life like this. I'm like, let's throw
away that script. Let's get out a
clean sheet of paper and let's see what
God wants to write. Because all the
chapters of your life, all the chapters of your story are
not yet written. Some of the clients we
work with might need a bucket of white
out and a roller, but that doesn't matter. The good news
is that we are free to see God
rewrite the script. And that tells me that
we all have capacity. The second factor that
I want to look at, that often what makes
people great is what I would call
goal oriented, or the ability to focus people who are great
at what they do, know what they're
aiming at, don't they? You've probably
heard this before, but I'll say it anyway. If we aim at nothing, what are we going to hit? Nothing. So one of
the things you and I have to do when we're working with
couples to say, hey, what are we aiming at? What
are you aiming at? As a couple and
as individuals, we have to give them
something to aim at. We can give
them a compass, We can give them a map. These are tools, We can show them how to
use these things. But ultimately, you and I can't force them
to get in the car, go in a particular
direction, and we can't do the
driving for them. But we have to
help them get focused and to aim at something
goal oriented. The literal definition means to have a purpose, a type of strategy that affects how a
person approaches, plans for and achieves a certain task or desire. That's what we want.
I often ask people, and I'll just
challenge you, this as a little bit
of an aside. Do you have purpose? And are you goal
oriented in your life? Could you give me your
mission statement in five or fewer words? I often ask this,
I'll ask a couple. Give me your mission
statement as a couple in your marriage in five words or less. That becomes a very
focused orientation, often to what I need to do with them in counseling. When I lived in
the Hampton Roads area some years ago, there's a cruise
ship that goes out of the harbor,
Norfolk, Virginia, and heads out to Bermuda, the island just off
of North Carolina. And here's what I found
out, if the ship is, of course, one half
of one degree. Now, I want you to think about that
for a minute. I said a half
of one degree. What is that? That's
90 degrees, right? I'm not calling you
a loser on camera, but anyway, 90 degrees, 45.5 22 and a quarter, 11.8 What is one
half of one degree? If the ship is off course
half of one degree, it will miss the island by 50 miles if a
couple is off. Just a little bit on what they're aiming
at in their marriage. By time they walk it out, live it out as a couple. Boy, they can miss the
mark significantly. And we have to help
them be goal oriented, focused in what
God wants to do. I think that's a critically
important thing. These first two are just what we're
going to focus on. There are seven factors. Capacity and goal orientation
are the first two. Part two, we'll talk
about the next three.

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**## VIDEO-WatchamarriegetodieforPart1.docx**

**VIDEO**

marriage

https://canvas.liberty.edu/courses/1011409/pages/watch-a-marriage-two-die-for-part-1-2?module_item_id=107528271

**## CaseStudyGradingRubric.pdf**

Criteria Ratings Points

Content 105 to >97 pts

Advanced

All components as
described in the
assignment have
been thoroughly
addressed. Student
followed the Case
Study Analysis
Template and used
headings A through
E. Student
demonstrated
advanced critical
thinking,
problem-solving,
and an organized,
theory-based
counseling
approach. Student
demonstrated
advanced prowess
in elaborating on
the Chosen
Theoretical
Orientation
(suggested scope
is 2 pages).
Student
incorporated and
synthesized course
materials.

97 to >88 pts

Proficient

Most components
as described in the
assignment have
been thoroughly
addressed.
Student followed
the Case Study
Analysis Template
and used headings
A through E.
Student proficiently
demonstrated
critical thinking,
problem-solving,
and an organized,
theory-based
counseling
approach. Student
was proficient at
elaborating on the
Chosen
Theoretical
Orientation
(suggested scope
is 2 pages).
Student adequately
incorporated and
synthesized course
materials.

88 to >80 pts

Developing

Few components
as described in the
assignment have
been thoroughly
addressed.
Student followed
most of the Case
Study Analysis
Template and used
headings A
through E. Student
exemplified
developing
demonstration of
critical thinking,
problem-solving,
and an organized,
theory-based
counseling
approach. Student
elaborated on the
Chosen
Theoretical
Orientation
(suggested scope
is 2 pages).
Student
incorporated and
synthesized
course materials.

80 to >0 pts

Below Expectations

Few components as
described in the
assignment have
been thoroughly
addressed. Student
inadequately followed
the Case Study
Analysis Template
and used headings A
through E.
Organization was
lacking. Student
inadequately
demonstrated critical
thinking,
problem-solving, and
an organized,
theory-based
counseling approach.
Student did not meet
expectations in
elaborating on the
Chosen Theoretical
Orientation
(suggested scope is 2
pages). Student failed
to adequately
incorporate and
synthesize course
materials.

0 pts

Not
present

/ 105
pts

Mechanics 45 to >40 pts

Advanced

Student
demonstrated
exemplary
grammar, diction
and APA
formatting.

40 to >38 pts

Proficient

Student
demonstrated
proficient grammar,
diction and APA
formatting.

38 to >33 pts

Developing

Student
demonstrated
average quality
grammar, diction
and APA
formatting.

33 to >0 pts

Below Expectations

Student demonstrated
poor grammar, diction
and APA formatting.

0 pts

No
Marks

/ 45
pts

Total Points: –

Case Study Grading Rubric | EDCO811_D01_202630

**## CaseStudyAnalysisPaulandDiane.docx**

EDCO 811

**Case Study Analysis: Paul and Diane**

Paul and Diane have been married for five years. It is the first marriage for both spouses. Currently, Paul is a successful CPA with a prestigious accounting firm in Manassas. He has been with the company for nearly 10 years and is next in line for a senior management position that will be opening soon due to a retiring colleague. Diane teaches English at a local high school. She has been teaching for the past eight years since completing her master’s degree.

They closed on their first home two years ago, taking a 30-year mortgage. However, Paul would like to pay off the mortgage in the next 15 years due to the uncertain real estate market and sluggish economy. Both of them really enjoy being on and around the water and recently purchased a small boat to use whenever they could. After meeting at a Christmas party, their relationship seemed like a whirlwind romance. They immediately started dating and married six months later and both of them were content with their careers and life in general. They started attending a new church about three years ago and looked for ways to be more involved. Diane volunteers with children’s ministries and Paul has started helping out with youth related activities and meetings.

As the school year is coming to an end, Diane has begun to think more about having children and starting a family. She turns 33 this year and did not want to wait too much longer. Her family is “dropping hints” about grandkids and she knows her biological clock is ticking. When she mentioned her thoughts and that she was considering not teaching during the next school year, according to her, Paul “went ballistic.” He said that they had already committed to paying off the mortgage and the new boat. When Diane suggested that they sell the boat and could manage with a lower budget, Paul just became more frustrated and angrier. Last week, he made the comment that he was not even sure if he still wanted to have any children. Besides, he reasoned, their involvement with children and the youth group gave them both plenty of meaningful time with children.

Diane believes that Paul has become too accustomed to their two-income lifestyle and that his parent’s messy divorce when he was nine still “scares” him about raising their own family. The negative reaction from Paul has devastated Diane and has led to several very heated arguments, which have now spilled over to other parts of the relationship. Every time Paul wants to discuss the matter, he says that she just, “cries and gets emotional and angry,” while Diane claims that Paul, “leaves the house to be with his buddies or sulks in front of the television all night.” Their love life has been almost non-existent for several months now. Last week, Diane confessed her questioning the fact that they got married too soon and did not really know each other well enough. Church leadership has asked them both to take a time-out and work on the marriage. Although somewhat reluctant and defensive, they have both agreed to talk with a counselor.

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We welcome, and
I'm excited to be unpacking some
information with you and some thoughts
with you about what goes into
creating vibrant, healthy, whole
balanced marriages. I want to start
by asking you, have you ever seen
a great athlete? I love the Olympics. Have you ever seen
great performers, great musicians,
great speakers, singers, artists, leaders? We see people like that. And again, I'll go
back to the Olympics. We see people
who are great. And we look at the
performance and we're amazed by their
performance. And that's what we see, that's what's
in front of us. But what is it that
you and I often don't see after we watch the
great performance? And many of you
right now would probably answer that
question, Well, we don't see
everything that went into producing
the performance. Correct. After
working with couples for literally
three decades now, you begin to see what some couples put into their marriage that make for healthy marriages and what other couples do that maybe aren't
very good, aren't very healthy or balanced for
their marriages. We're going to take three
parts and I want to unpack for you
seven factors that I feel are helpful in creating world class gold medal wonderful
marriages. It's probably not the
only seven things, or exclusively
the best seven. But these are
the things that have resonated with me over my career of working with
literally hundreds, if not maybe several
thousand couples. So let me just
kind of lock into this and give you the seven factors
in this part. One, we'll cover the
first two factors. The first factor I would refer to or I
would call capacity, Some might call
it inaateability, talent, skill set. But the great
ones seem to have this capacity for
greatness to do something. Well, I know that some couples that
you and I might see, or the spouses
that we might see, they might look at
themselves and say, I don't think I have the capacity
for greatness. I'm not sure that I
have the capacity to have a great
marriage or to be a great husband
or a great wife. Gee, you should
see the family I came up from, we were pretty messed up. So I want to
challenge that because I believe from
a Christian context, from a faith
based context, we all have the
capacity for greatness. It is Christ in us. Loss 127 says, the hope
of glory. Thank God. It's not me or you
or our clients, but it's who's
in us that makes a difference in John 39. John says that we are born of his seed,
meaning God's seed. That word, seed in
the Greek is sperma. P E R MA guess which word we get in
English for that. Now, I want you to think about that
for a minute. John is saying that we are born of sperma, his seed. Think about it
this way, when someone is in Christ, when they are a
Christ follower, if they have a
relationship with God, literally, I think I
can from this scripture say we have the
DNA of Heaven. Have you ever stopped
to think about that? You and I have
the same DNA that spoke the
world into being, that raised Lazarus
from the dead. That open blind
eyes and healed the leper and
unstopped ears. You and I have
that same DNA, Just like if you have
a son or a daughter, then your son or daughter has your genetic DNA. You and I have our
parents genetic DNA. If we are born again, if we are born
into Christ, we genetically, in
a spiritual sense, the DNA of Heaven. The encouraging part
of this is that means anyone has a capacity
for a great marriage. And so I don't let
couples or husbands or wives necessarily get away with
saying, well, you know, a great
marriage might be reserved for them or
them, but not me. I'm stuck to the
grade B movie here. I don't
believe that. And I think it's important
we communicate to our couples that H one, each spouse and
each couple that represents the
marriage have the capacity
for greatness. And I say this, listen, if great is available, I encourage husbands and wives, don't
settle for good. Don't be a good husband
or a good wife. If you can be a great husband or a great wife, don't be a good
dad or a good mom. If you can be a great
dad or a great mom, it's important
not to settle for mediocrity or good when great is available. For those who say to me, Eric, if you could just understand
my life story, you'd see why I struggle
with the thought that I can have a great marriage or
where I've come from. I often use the metaphor of rewriting the
script, so to speak. I couldn't do what I do, and I'm not sure you could effectively
work with a client or a
couple if you didn't believe that God could make a difference, if you didn't believe
that we're not stuck with the hand that we are dealt with in life. Let's say for a
moment that you are the Christian version of Steven Spielberg. You're just this
amazing movie producer, director, and you're
reading a book. And as you're
reading the book, you are saying to
yourself, boy, I'd love to make a
movie out of that book. What's the first thing
that you would have to do if you wanted to make a movie out of the
book you were reading? Well, you would have
to go to the author, secure the rights
to make the movie. Why? Because it's
not your story, it's not your book. When Peter Jackson and New Line Cinema wanted to make the Lord of
the Rings movies, they had to go to the Tolkien Society,
have conversation, negotiate the
rights, pay for the rights to make
those movies. I'm sure they paid
a pretty penny, but I think in
the end they did. All right. But once you own the rights
to the story, then you're free within some latitude to change the story
a little bit. I can bring a character into the movie
that wasn't in the book or take a character out of the movie that was
in the book, or change the
order of things or the lines a little
bit. That's why what? Movies never quite
like the book. When we come to Christ, when he brings
salvation in essence, what does it mean
to be redeemed? What does the word
redeem literally mean? It means to buy
back to purchase. When a person
comes to Christ, it's in essence that God negotiated the rights
to that person's story. That's why in Hebrews 12, the writer of
Hebrews can say, now God is the author and the finisher
of our stories, and he writes pretty
good stories. I've literally
talked with couples sometimes as I'm hearing them unpack their story, I've literally looked
at him and said, what script are you
reading off of right now? Is it the one that was
thrust into your hands when you were a little
kid and someone said, this is your role,
this is your identity, these are your
lines, memorize it, do life like this. I'm like, let's throw
away that script. Let's get out a
clean sheet of paper and let's see what
God wants to write. Because all the
chapters of your life, all the chapters of your story are
not yet written. Some of the clients we
work with might need a bucket of white
out and a roller, but that doesn't matter. The good news
is that we are free to see God
rewrite the script. And that tells me that
we all have capacity. The second factor that
I want to look at, that often what makes
people great is what I would call
goal oriented, or the ability to focus people who are great
at what they do, know what they're
aiming at, don't they? You've probably
heard this before, but I'll say it anyway. If we aim at nothing, what are we going to hit? Nothing. So one of
the things you and I have to do when we're working with
couples to say, hey, what are we aiming at? What
are you aiming at? As a couple and
as individuals, we have to give them
something to aim at. We can give
them a compass, We can give them a map. These are tools, We can show them how to
use these things. But ultimately, you and I can't force them
to get in the car, go in a particular
direction, and we can't do the
driving for them. But we have to
help them get focused and to aim at something
goal oriented. The literal definition means to have a purpose, a type of strategy that affects how a
person approaches, plans for and achieves a certain task or desire. That's what we want.
I often ask people, and I'll just
challenge you, this as a little bit
of an aside. Do you have purpose? And are you goal
oriented in your life? Could you give me your
mission statement in five or fewer words? I often ask this,
I'll ask a couple. Give me your mission
statement as a couple in your marriage in five words or less. That becomes a very
focused orientation, often to what I need to do with them in counseling. When I lived in
the Hampton Roads area some years ago, there's a cruise
ship that goes out of the harbor,
Norfolk, Virginia, and heads out to Bermuda, the island just off
of North Carolina. And here's what I found
out, if the ship is, of course, one half
of one degree. Now, I want you to think about that
for a minute. I said a half
of one degree. What is that? That's
90 degrees, right? I'm not calling you
a loser on camera, but anyway, 90 degrees, 45.5 22 and a quarter, 11.8 What is one
half of one degree? If the ship is off course
half of one degree, it will miss the island by 50 miles if a
couple is off. Just a little bit on what they're aiming
at in their marriage. By time they walk it out, live it out as a couple. Boy, they can miss the
mark significantly. And we have to help
them be goal oriented, focused in what
God wants to do. I think that's a critically
important thing. These first two are just what we're
going to focus on. There are seven factors. Capacity and goal orientation
are the first two. Part two, we'll talk
about the next three.

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**VIDEO**

marriage

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**## CaseStudyGradingRubric.pdf**

Criteria Ratings Points

Content 105 to >97 pts

Advanced

All components as
described in the
assignment have
been thoroughly
addressed. Student
followed the Case
Study Analysis
Template and used
headings A through
E. Student
demonstrated
advanced critical
thinking,
problem-solving,
and an organized,
theory-based
counseling
approach. Student
demonstrated
advanced prowess
in elaborating on
the Chosen
Theoretical
Orientation
(suggested scope
is 2 pages).
Student
incorporated and
synthesized course
materials.

97 to >88 pts

Proficient

Most components
as described in the
assignment have
been thoroughly
addressed.
Student followed
the Case Study
Analysis Template
and used headings
A through E.
Student proficiently
demonstrated
critical thinking,
problem-solving,
and an organized,
theory-based
counseling
approach. Student
was proficient at
elaborating on the
Chosen
Theoretical
Orientation
(suggested scope
is 2 pages).
Student adequately
incorporated and
synthesized course
materials.

88 to >80 pts

Developing

Few components
as described in the
assignment have
been thoroughly
addressed.
Student followed
most of the Case
Study Analysis
Template and used
headings A
through E. Student
exemplified
developing
demonstration of
critical thinking,
problem-solving,
and an organized,
theory-based
counseling
approach. Student
elaborated on the
Chosen
Theoretical
Orientation
(suggested scope
is 2 pages).
Student
incorporated and
synthesized
course materials.

80 to >0 pts

Below Expectations

Few components as
described in the
assignment have
been thoroughly
addressed. Student
inadequately followed
the Case Study
Analysis Template
and used headings A
through E.
Organization was
lacking. Student
inadequately
demonstrated critical
thinking,
problem-solving, and
an organized,
theory-based
counseling approach.
Student did not meet
expectations in
elaborating on the
Chosen Theoretical
Orientation
(suggested scope is 2
pages). Student failed
to adequately
incorporate and
synthesize course
materials.

0 pts

Not
present

/ 105
pts

Mechanics 45 to >40 pts

Advanced

Student
demonstrated
exemplary
grammar, diction
and APA
formatting.

40 to >38 pts

Proficient

Student
demonstrated
proficient grammar,
diction and APA
formatting.

38 to >33 pts

Developing

Student
demonstrated
average quality
grammar, diction
and APA
formatting.

33 to >0 pts

Below Expectations

Student demonstrated
poor grammar, diction
and APA formatting.

0 pts

No
Marks

/ 45
pts

Total Points: –

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EDCO 811

**Case Study Analysis: Paul and Diane**

Paul and Diane have been married for five years. It is the first marriage for both spouses. Currently, Paul is a successful CPA with a prestigious accounting firm in Manassas. He has been with the company for nearly 10 years and is next in line for a senior management position that will be opening soon due to a retiring colleague. Diane teaches English at a local high school. She has been teaching for the past eight years since completing her master’s degree.

They closed on their first home two years ago, taking a 30-year mortgage. However, Paul would like to pay off the mortgage in the next 15 years due to the uncertain real estate market and sluggish economy. Both of them really enjoy being on and around the water and recently purchased a small boat to use whenever they could. After meeting at a Christmas party, their relationship seemed like a whirlwind romance. They immediately started dating and married six months later and both of them were content with their careers and life in general. They started attending a new church about three years ago and looked for ways to be more involved. Diane volunteers with children’s ministries and Paul has started helping out with youth related activities and meetings.

As the school year is coming to an end, Diane has begun to think more about having children and starting a family. She turns 33 this year and did not want to wait too much longer. Her family is “dropping hints” about grandkids and she knows her biological clock is ticking. When she mentioned her thoughts and that she was considering not teaching during the next school year, according to her, Paul “went ballistic.” He said that they had already committed to paying off the mortgage and the new boat. When Diane suggested that they sell the boat and could manage with a lower budget, Paul just became more frustrated and angrier. Last week, he made the comment that he was not even sure if he still wanted to have any children. Besides, he reasoned, their involvement with children and the youth group gave them both plenty of meaningful time with children.

Diane believes that Paul has become too accustomed to their two-income lifestyle and that his parent’s messy divorce when he was nine still “scares” him about raising their own family. The negative reaction from Paul has devastated Diane and has led to several very heated arguments, which have now spilled over to other parts of the relationship. Every time Paul wants to discuss the matter, he says that she just, “cries and gets emotional and angry,” while Diane claims that Paul, “leaves the house to be with his buddies or sulks in front of the television all night.” Their love life has been almost non-existent for several months now. Last week, Diane confessed her questioning the fact that they got married too soon and did not really know each other well enough. Church leadership has asked them both to take a time-out and work on the marriage. Although somewhat reluctant and defensive, they have both agreed to talk with a counselor.

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**## TranscriptVideo-Watch-a-marriage-two-die-for-part-1.txt**

We welcome, and
I'm excited to be unpacking some
information with you and some thoughts
with you about what goes into
creating vibrant, healthy, whole
balanced marriages. I want to start
by asking you, have you ever seen
a great athlete? I love the Olympics. Have you ever seen
great performers, great musicians,
great speakers, singers, artists, leaders? We see people like that. And again, I'll go
back to the Olympics. We see people
who are great. And we look at the
performance and we're amazed by their
performance. And that's what we see, that's what's
in front of us. But what is it that
you and I often don't see after we watch the
great performance? And many of you
right now would probably answer that
question, Well, we don't see
everything that went into producing
the performance. Correct. After
working with couples for literally
three decades now, you begin to see what some couples put into their marriage that make for healthy marriages and what other couples do that maybe aren't
very good, aren't very healthy or balanced for
their marriages. We're going to take three
parts and I want to unpack for you
seven factors that I feel are helpful in creating world class gold medal wonderful
marriages. It's probably not the
only seven things, or exclusively
the best seven. But these are
the things that have resonated with me over my career of working with
literally hundreds, if not maybe several
thousand couples. So let me just
kind of lock into this and give you the seven factors
in this part. One, we'll cover the
first two factors. The first factor I would refer to or I
would call capacity, Some might call
it inaateability, talent, skill set. But the great
ones seem to have this capacity for
greatness to do something. Well, I know that some couples that
you and I might see, or the spouses
that we might see, they might look at
themselves and say, I don't think I have the capacity
for greatness. I'm not sure that I
have the capacity to have a great
marriage or to be a great husband
or a great wife. Gee, you should
see the family I came up from, we were pretty messed up. So I want to
challenge that because I believe from
a Christian context, from a faith
based context, we all have the
capacity for greatness. It is Christ in us. Loss 127 says, the hope
of glory. Thank God. It's not me or you
or our clients, but it's who's
in us that makes a difference in John 39. John says that we are born of his seed,
meaning God's seed. That word, seed in
the Greek is sperma. P E R MA guess which word we get in
English for that. Now, I want you to think about that
for a minute. John is saying that we are born of sperma, his seed. Think about it
this way, when someone is in Christ, when they are a
Christ follower, if they have a
relationship with God, literally, I think I
can from this scripture say we have the
DNA of Heaven. Have you ever stopped
to think about that? You and I have
the same DNA that spoke the
world into being, that raised Lazarus
from the dead. That open blind
eyes and healed the leper and
unstopped ears. You and I have
that same DNA, Just like if you have
a son or a daughter, then your son or daughter has your genetic DNA. You and I have our
parents genetic DNA. If we are born again, if we are born
into Christ, we genetically, in
a spiritual sense, the DNA of Heaven. The encouraging part
of this is that means anyone has a capacity
for a great marriage. And so I don't let
couples or husbands or wives necessarily get away with
saying, well, you know, a great
marriage might be reserved for them or
them, but not me. I'm stuck to the
grade B movie here. I don't
believe that. And I think it's important
we communicate to our couples that H one, each spouse and
each couple that represents the
marriage have the capacity
for greatness. And I say this, listen, if great is available, I encourage husbands and wives, don't
settle for good. Don't be a good husband
or a good wife. If you can be a great husband or a great wife, don't be a good
dad or a good mom. If you can be a great
dad or a great mom, it's important
not to settle for mediocrity or good when great is available. For those who say to me, Eric, if you could just understand
my life story, you'd see why I struggle
with the thought that I can have a great marriage or
where I've come from. I often use the metaphor of rewriting the
script, so to speak. I couldn't do what I do, and I'm not sure you could effectively
work with a client or a
couple if you didn't believe that God could make a difference, if you didn't believe
that we're not stuck with the hand that we are dealt with in life. Let's say for a
moment that you are the Christian version of Steven Spielberg. You're just this
amazing movie producer, director, and you're
reading a book. And as you're
reading the book, you are saying to
yourself, boy, I'd love to make a
movie out of that book. What's the first thing
that you would have to do if you wanted to make a movie out of the
book you were reading? Well, you would have
to go to the author, secure the rights
to make the movie. Why? Because it's
not your story, it's not your book. When Peter Jackson and New Line Cinema wanted to make the Lord of
the Rings movies, they had to go to the Tolkien Society,
have conversation, negotiate the
rights, pay for the rights to make
those movies. I'm sure they paid
a pretty penny, but I think in
the end they did. All right. But once you own the rights
to the story, then you're free within some latitude to change the story
a little bit. I can bring a character into the movie
that wasn't in the book or take a character out of the movie that was
in the book, or change the
order of things or the lines a little
bit. That's why what? Movies never quite
like the book. When we come to Christ, when he brings
salvation in essence, what does it mean
to be redeemed? What does the word
redeem literally mean? It means to buy
back to purchase. When a person
comes to Christ, it's in essence that God negotiated the rights
to that person's story. That's why in Hebrews 12, the writer of
Hebrews can say, now God is the author and the finisher
of our stories, and he writes pretty
good stories. I've literally
talked with couples sometimes as I'm hearing them unpack their story, I've literally looked
at him and said, what script are you
reading off of right now? Is it the one that was
thrust into your hands when you were a little
kid and someone said, this is your role,
this is your identity, these are your
lines, memorize it, do life like this. I'm like, let's throw
away that script. Let's get out a
clean sheet of paper and let's see what
God wants to write. Because all the
chapters of your life, all the chapters of your story are
not yet written. Some of the clients we
work with might need a bucket of white
out and a roller, but that doesn't matter. The good news
is that we are free to see God
rewrite the script. And that tells me that
we all have capacity. The second factor that
I want to look at, that often what makes
people great is what I would call
goal oriented, or the ability to focus people who are great
at what they do, know what they're
aiming at, don't they? You've probably
heard this before, but I'll say it anyway. If we aim at nothing, what are we going to hit? Nothing. So one of
the things you and I have to do when we're working with
couples to say, hey, what are we aiming at? What
are you aiming at? As a couple and
as individuals, we have to give them
something to aim at. We can give
them a compass, We can give them a map. These are tools, We can show them how to
use these things. But ultimately, you and I can't force them
to get in the car, go in a particular
direction, and we can't do the
driving for them. But we have to
help them get focused and to aim at something
goal oriented. The literal definition means to have a purpose, a type of strategy that affects how a
person approaches, plans for and achieves a certain task or desire. That's what we want.
I often ask people, and I'll just
challenge you, this as a little bit
of an aside. Do you have purpose? And are you goal
oriented in your life? Could you give me your
mission statement in five or fewer words? I often ask this,
I'll ask a couple. Give me your mission
statement as a couple in your marriage in five words or less. That becomes a very
focused orientation, often to what I need to do with them in counseling. When I lived in
the Hampton Roads area some years ago, there's a cruise
ship that goes out of the harbor,
Norfolk, Virginia, and heads out to Bermuda, the island just off
of North Carolina. And here's what I found
out, if the ship is, of course, one half
of one degree. Now, I want you to think about that
for a minute. I said a half
of one degree. What is that? That's
90 degrees, right? I'm not calling you
a loser on camera, but anyway, 90 degrees, 45.5 22 and a quarter, 11.8 What is one
half of one degree? If the ship is off course
half of one degree, it will miss the island by 50 miles if a
couple is off. Just a little bit on what they're aiming
at in their marriage. By time they walk it out, live it out as a couple. Boy, they can miss the
mark significantly. And we have to help
them be goal oriented, focused in what
God wants to do. I think that's a critically
important thing. These first two are just what we're
going to focus on. There are seven factors. Capacity and goal orientation
are the first two. Part two, we'll talk
about the next three.

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